People seem not to see that their opinion of the world
is also a confession of character. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
Such wise words. Similar to Mahatma Ghandi's "be the change you wish to see in the world"
I don't understand people who feel the need to denigrate others simply to make themselves appear bigger and thus inflating their opinion of themselves. Ultimately, they must think very little of themselves to resort to this poor behaviour.
Really all they accomplish is revealing their own shallow narrow minded characters. These people and their followers simply add negativity into a world that needs people to be strong and independent, people who will not succumb to peer group pressure.
These people will not accept bad behaviour in others and will not be dictated to either. These people think for themselves and may seek the opinion of others but in the end will make up their own minds. They will choose their friends based on there own opinion rather than relying on the here-say of others.
True friends then accept you and your short comings as they would expect you to accept their's. For in life none of us are perfect. And afterall, what kind of role model do you wish to be for your children.
It is really eye opening what you learn about people when you yourself have had challenges to deal with. As painful as this has been for me, I think in the long run it is important that I learn from it and then let it go. Life is about taking the good with the bad and fortunately, I still have so many good friends many of them have been life long. For this reason the bad simply shall become unimportant and just another lesson in my life.
I hope these words can help any person who has found themselves at some stage in their life to have had to deal with false and untrue 'friends'. Learn from their behaviour, model yourself as a friend on what you wish for in a friend and then move on.